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Monday, August 4, 2014

EXCUSE ME I'M NOT RACIST!!!!! JUST HITTING ON YOU


I have heard this over and over again from someone who just said something racist. What do I have to do to get you to believe you are RACIST????????????

I am beyond frustrated. No, it is not my goal in life to prove people are racist, but if someone says you just said something racist; you should believe it.

Today someone tried to tell me people get racism, prejudice, and discrimination mixed up. I just didn't even go there because the subject was: "My family would pitch a fit if I dated a black woman." Come on! Give me a break! Do I really have anything confused here???

Just for fun let's look at the definition of racism and prejudice: PREJUDICE
preconceived opinion that is not based on reason or actual experience.
"English prejudice against foreigners"
RACISM   The belief that all members of each race possess characteristics or abilities specific to that race, especially so as to distinguish as inferior or superior to another race or races = prejudice, discrimination, or antagonism directed against someone of a different race based on the belief that one's own race is superior.
So prejudice is racism defined??? Or prejudice allows you to escape the 'WHY' to your racism? 
Any way you slice it. Just be aware if someone tells you that you made a racist comment; just don't repeat what you said if you care about not being racist. I found the below site which has ghetto pick up lines or what I typed in for experiment sake and ghetto pick up lines showed up instead "Pick Up Lines By Black Men." I ask you: "Would black men actually use any of these pick up lines and are they racist?" Or are these just wrong no matter what man says them?

"You know how some men buy really expensive cars to make up for certain shortages? Well I don't even own a car"
 "Hey excuse me...I know you pregnant but when you drop that one off...ID LOVE to put another one in u" 
"Honey just by seeing you from behind I know you're a well-rounded person"
 "Ok, I'm here. What are your other two wishes?"
 "I have good credit"
 Hey, are your parents beavers, cuz DAMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMM.
 "Girl you be the 6, I'll be the 9, that's only time you'll be less than a dime."
 yo gurl, I heard your good at math... Cause your legs are always divided. 
"I'm digging u like a shovel ma!" Are you from the ghetto cause I'm about to ghetto hold of that ass 
Watch your step gurl....don't want you to fall in love with someone else. 
 Hey do you have an inhaler? Cause you got that ass ma!  
 "Aye girl let me put my direct in yo deposit!" Do you like to draw?
 "Just get in tha car, bitch... im famous" 
"A genie'll come out of my penis ... For real tho but only if u rub it hard enuff"
 "You a good girl, u jus need a thug in ya life to treat u rite!"
 "The only nigguh flya than you .. is yo reflection"
"Was your Dad a traffic cop? Because you got fine written all over you."
 Why pay $5 when you can't get this footlong for free
 Girl, yuh look like a bottle a maple syrup....THICK.
 "I got arrested the other day. [For what?] For having two guns and a six pack."
 "Dont worry bout me baby im gettin sum measurements im bout to lay some pipe"
 "Hi, i'm wasted but this condom in my pocket doesn't have to be."
 "Hey beautiful.. let me scan ur barcode "smile and show dimple"
 "Is this ur real hair cause i saw it on a mannequin in the hair store but it was real expensive!!!...so can i have ur number?"
 "I claim you in the name of JESUS!"
 "I'm lookin' for a girl like my mother. She knew her place. But in a good way." 
 "Theres somethin wrong wit yur phone... my numbers not in it"
 "I Like My Girls Like My Koolaid "Sweet And Go Down Easy.."
 "Hey girl you got a father? ....Want a daddy?" Hey baby, I'd love to f**k the shit out of your fake weave Do you like Pizza, cuz I want a pizza dat ass That ass so fat, you could pull a brothas eyes out with the gravity? "If I was a watermelon, would you spit or swallow my seed?" 
 "I dont care that u used to be fat, just come here and let me eat that cat!" 
 "If what matters is on the inside... Howsabout I get on the inside?"
 Hey Shawty, do I stand a chance with you or shall I just move on to your fat friend? 
 "If you were a car, I'd wax and ride you all over town" 
"Who yo hair dresser? Tell her I apologize for messing up her work" 
"AYE baby..is that my name tattooed on your back"
 "If fine was a felony you'd be on death row."
 "Baby you thicker than a novel, and I wanna read all yo pages" 
Aww, girl, I'm gonna have to put you on my "To Do" List!
 Damn u got a big A S S !! 
 Girl you look so good, i wish i could plant a whole field of yall!
 "Your so hot you must've started all of globle warming"
 "Is there a fire in here or are we just standing too close"
 Girl you're sweet as candy, can I taste u "Now And Later"
 "So what directory should I look for your heart's number?"
 "Are u in my class? Because I really need help studying that anatomy" 
"Don't worry I'll look better after a few drinks"
 "If I was in your 1st grade class I would have played house with you"

Be My Baby Boo


Okay the journey begins. You are in love. You go to the church and say those eternal words "I Do" and the two become one.

After the honeymoon the terror begins to set in or it may be on a year delay. I mean, come on, the first year of marriage is centered on SEX and lots of it. It has become a standard joke to put in a penny for each time you have sex the first year of marriage and to take a penny out the following years you have sex in the marriage. No one is afraid of running out of pennies indicating there will be plenty of good red hot passionate spontaneous sex the first year of marriage then it's downhill from there.

But, for now lets stick with the first year of marriage - the new entity formed from two separate beings that are now one. We know what a new born is apt to go through the first year of life. Does a marriage go through the same thing? The one important thing to remember: Babies grow and change at an astounding pace.
 Below data from http://www.webmd.com/parenting/baby/infant-development-9/stages-of-development
  • Smile. Early on, it will be just to herself. But within three months, she’ll be smiling in response to your smiles and trying to get you to smile back at her.
  • Raise her head and chest when on her tummy.
  • Track objects with her eyes and gradually decrease eye crossing.
  • Open and shut her hands and bring hands to her mouth.
  • Grip objects in her hands.
  • Take swipes at or reach for dangling objects, though she usually won’t be able to get them yet.
  • Roll over from front to back or back to front. Front-to-back usually comes first.
  • Babble, making sounds that can sound like real language.
  • Laugh.
  • Reach out for and grab objects (watch out for your hair), and manipulate toys and other objects with her hands.
  • Sit up with support and have great head control.
  • During this time period, your baby may:
  • Start to crawl. This can include scooting (propelling around on his bottom) or “army crawling” (dragging himself on his tummy by arms and legs), as well as standard crawling on hands and knees. Some babies never crawl, moving directly to from scooting to walking.
  • Sit without support.
  • Respond to familiar words like his name. He may also respond to “No” by briefly stopping and looking at you, and may start babbling "Mama" and "Dada."
  • Clap and play games such as patty-cake and peekaboo.
  • Learn to pull up to a standing position.
  • Begin feeding herself. Babies at this developmental stage master the “pincer grasp“ -- meaning they can hold small objects such as O-shaped cereal between their thumb and forefinger.
  • Cruise, or move around the room on her feet while holding onto the furniture.
  • Say one or two words, and "Mama" and "Dada" become specific name for parents. The average is about three spoken words by the first birthday, but the range on this is enormous.
  • Point at objects she wants in order to get your attention.
  • Begin “pretend play” by copying you or using objects correctly, such as pretending to talk on the phone. 
  • Take her first steps. This usually happens right around one year, but it can vary greatly. 
As you can see the baby is learning how to operate itself. the smallest tasks have significant meaning: smiling, reaching for an object, raising and lowering the body, responding to familiar words and commands. the baby is not yet ready to walk and choose directions, it is just gaining the ability to begin to move towards desired out comes. Playing peak-a-boo and patty-cakes is all encompassing and exciting. Just recognizing and moving it's hand is stimulating so you can see why SEX in the first year of marriage is the most awesome game the 'infant' has going on at the time.

The infant itself is the star. It sees nothing to the left or right of itself at this time. It is completely involved with its own self. Kind of blissful if you think about it.

So in the anatomy of a marriage we have the two people joined as one who enjoys smiling, playing games, just learning how to use it's hands to reach, grasp, hold, point, and manipulate objects. The new 'marriage' is just now learning how to make sounds and form simple words. It does not yet know how to stand and walk. No real decisions are being made at this point.

For parents watching their babies in this time of growth is filled with joy. Parents do everything to help their kids cross the milestones of using hands, talking, and sitting up and we find in the married world; family and friends are reacting to the 'marriage' in the same way.

Our newly formed baby is own its way to walking after the honeymoon phase dies down and the infant stage is passed. What is in store for the marriage once infancy is mastered if it is.

What if the 'marriage' does not learn how to form words or identify commands? What if the 'marriage' does not learn how to track things with its eyes and follow along? What if the 'marriage' does not learn how to control and use its body parts correctly in this all important play stage? In the next post we will look at what happens when development in this stage does not go as it should.  

Saturday, July 26, 2014

The Beginning of LOVE or just SEX

   
                                              
Many years ago a thought came to me about being in love and married and how people seem to have gotten it wrong. I thought about the dreaded "Seven Year Itch" people would prophesy about happening in a marriage. If a couple survived it then they would have to face the second cousin itch; "Eleventh Year itch" which appears to be even more treacherous.
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With such dismaying images swirling in my head I wanted my mind to go back to the floating on clouds wedding day and to the bliss of sensuous lovemaking during the honeymoon phase. I quickly, without effort, remembered the phrase "The Honeymoon Won't Last Forever." and again became dismayed at the short lifespan of happiness a marriage seems to have. Yes, I have seen the elderly couple together proud they made it for 50+ years. I still have to wonder, did they live each year hopelessly in love or did they survive a marriage and SURPRISE! we are still here together with a joint endgame in mind - "To die peacefully." Now the elderly couple are as one - same mind, same goal, same thought - they have truly reached the stage of maturity and becoming one.
It is at the above revelation when I began to ponder: "Is a marriage like the birth of a newborn?" "Does a marriage have to go through infancy, adolescence, adulthood, and old age?" And if so, how could I visualize it and show a comparison? Excitement began to build. Could I take my favorite Human Growth and Development theorist Erik Erikson and apply what he discovered about an individual entity to a newly born/ formed organism of two becoming ONE (marriage) to create a healthy - loving - sustained throughout life - relationship? Is a marriage a singular entity having to go through human growth and development? I say yes and plan to prove my own hypothesis and write a book on it. I ask you to go with me on this discovery and contribute with feed back or personal
experiences along the way.
                                                                       

A working title for this endeavor: Human Growth and Anatomy of Your Love Marriage. (this is very subject to change). Bellow are the stages we go through as individuals according to Erickson. My hypothesis will examine a marriage at these same stages and how each individual is behaving, responding, interacting with spouse while in this stage. I ask you to hold onto your seats it may get wild up in here at times. But I am so looking forward to this new project along with your input I believe we are onto some ground breaking work here.
 
All of the material regarding this project will be my property with proper recognition of source materials and contributors to this conversation. Participation: statements, questions, etc will be viewed as permission to use in upcoming printing of materials.